Updated: Oct 7, 2019
When starting off on building a happier life for myself, I didn’t first know where to go, or how to get there. All I knew at first was that I wanted to make a change because I knew that what I was doing was not making me happy. So I began to ask myself, what does happy look like?
I decided to go looking for the answer of ‘What is happiness?’ Guys, I was not disappointed. I came across a quote by Ayn Rand that blew me away.
“Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values.”
Wow. What this told me was that if I am consistent in my actions, consistent in promoting in my life what I think is important, I will be living happiness. This is such a powerful thought... that our values, the things that we think are important in our lives and work, not only determine our priorities, but can be used as a way to measure if your life is going the way you want it to.
After reading this, I set out to define my values. What is most important in my life? I made a list of the top 5 things in my life.
Family was first on my list. I want to spend as much time as I possibly can with them and create lasting memories. I do not want to miss out on big events, or even the day-to-day stuff.
Health was next on my list. Taking care of not only my body, it also of my mind and heart has become a top priority for me because I know that that helps me keep my depression and anxiety at bay.
Leadership was third on the list. This, for me, includes developing myself and others with various personal growth tactics. Leadership means I’m always learning, and striving to help others do the same.
Fourth was independence. I crave control over my time and schedule, as well as my income. I don’t want to rely on a boss for these things. want to be financially independent and debt free. I also want the freedom to go somewhere completely by myself on occasion to work on my relationship with me.
Last, but certainly not least, authenticity! I will not, under any circumstances, make myself small anymore. I will not try to fit someone eles’s mold of what they they think I should be or do. From now on, I am living unapologetically as myself.
Now, having this guideline, if I actively pursue to live up to what is most important to me than I will find many more happy days. If I run into something that I am unsure of, I can use my values as a compass of sorts and ask myself, “Will this action uphold my values? Will it lead me closer to a happy day/week/month/life?”
If you’re not sure where to start with rebuilding a happier life for yourself, I suggest you start here. Your values may very well be different from mine, but that’s ok! Get a piece of paper and a pen, and write down the top 5 values in your life. Still need help defining your values? Send me an email and I’ll help you out. If you’re comfortable with sharing, I would love to know what you wrote. Contact me here, and don’t forget to subscribe!